I'm listening to Mary J. Blige's 'take me as i am' and I'm thinking these random thoughts,
we all have a list for everything, our ideal house, job, car, girlfriend,wife,family therefore
forget ourselves in the perfect world we try to create,make around us or achieve.
we lose sight of our imperfections that makes us and try to be perfect, flawless, just be right in the eyes of others. All we think about is a perfect picture we have to create for others to be envious.
Also, we forget that we have other people's list to measure up to or else we'll faced with rejection. Rejection is something we dread instinctively but sometimes do it deliberately to others we feel don't measure up but we expect to be handled leniently and loving while we rise the bar and high handed with others not considering their circumstance.
why can't we be real and take each other as we are?

we can only get better and not transformed to self made creatures filled with pride,

we can improve and not be perfect as the Jones. humanness is shown in our defects and flaws, our ability to make mistakes and learn from them, to cry and make amends, to ask forgiveness and repent, to move ahead and be unstuck from past. the knowledge that you cannot judge your brother without exposing yourself makes us vulnerable of our weakness and more compassionate to him without being judgemental lending a helping hand to make him a better person.

Acceptance is key to knowledge, true knowledge of who we are, how we can improve not losing our self in 'the list'.
just take me as i am, i have nothing at all. i can only be B.